How can a wife save a potential ex-husband?

In a recent article, a former wife reflects on the actions of her past marriage that could have saved her ex-husband. Many marriages fail due to the emphasis on superficial values. Marriages must focus on the original design of marriage (Ordermige) to avoid the ex-husband syndrome. 

According to the article, 5 Things My ex-Husband Could have done To Save Our Marriage, the author proposes five recommendations for eliminating the necessity of an ex-husband. She surmises that avoiding the ex-husband syndrome will require:

1. Make her feel special

2. Help out

3. Make the marriage a priority

4. Grow with her

5. Break up with the porn habit

The first challenge that this former wife has that resulted in a divorce is that the marriage was to be centered on her. According to the original design of marriage, the marriage is centered on the relationships that the man and wife have with God. The man has to have a relationship with God. If he has the appropriate relationships, he will understand from Genesis 3:16 that he is to be a servant and a good steward.

How does a potential ex-husband become a servant?

In order for a potential ex-husband to be a servant he must know the area that God has called him to serve. This can be challenging for most men. This begins with the husband determining his Spiritual Gifts. Spiritual Gifts are outlined as follows:

Romans 12

Encouragement

Giving

Leadership

Mercy

Prophecy

Service

Teaching

 

I Corinthians 12

The Word of Knowledge

The Word of Wisdom

The Gift of Prophecy

The Gift of Faith

The Gifts of Healings

The Working of Miracles

The Discerning of Spirits

Different Kinds of Tongues

The Interpretation of Tongues

Ephesians 4

Apostle

Prophet

Evangelist

Pastor

Teacher

 

I Peter 4

Serving

Teaching

 

Once a man has determined his Spiritual Gifts, he must then determine the vision that God has placed in his heart. This vision will help the wife to determine how she can help her husband.

The next stage is for the man to follow God’s directions. God has left husbands specific instructions in regards to their wife. The Scriptures instruct “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it” (Ephesians 5: 25). The word in this verse for love means agape. Agape means to love in a social or moral sense. To love from a social sense means to form cooperative and interdependent relationship with others. For the husband and wife, it means to form a cooperative and interdependent relationship with each other. To work cooperatively means to work or act together for a common purpose or benefit. The husband and wife are to work together for a common purpose or benefit. An interdependent relationship between a husband and wife is a close personal relationship, where one or both provides some type of support and care of the other.

To love from a moral sense means to conform to standards of what is right or just behavior. Genesis 2:24 and Matthew 5:27-28 provide guidance for moral behaviors.

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh (Genesis 2:24).

Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart (Matthew 5:27-28).

One thing that begins to happen in a marriage is that as time moves forward in the marriage, men will stop touching their wives as they once did. The Luveuphoria formula will help husbands with providing the necessary affection towards their wife.

Finally, the husband is to become the team leader. This is where most wives have the biggest challenge. The world does not teach a woman to be a follower. In actuality, the world teaches the wife to be dominant which can result in a potential ex-husband.

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In Christ,

Dr. Derrick and Mrs. Sheila Campbell
PO Box 4707
Cherry Hill, NJ 08012

(856) 566-3267
www.advancedmarriagetraining.com

 

Published books – Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land

-Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land (Workbook for husbands & Wives)

– Advanced Marriage Training for Singles

– Husband Leadership Principles

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Samaritan Baptist Church

Trenton, NJ

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El Shaddia Christian Assembly

Philadelphia, PA

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How can the husband infuse the lust back into marriage without a sex therapist?

In a recent article, an author presupposes that putting the lust back into marriage requires the services of a sex therapist. Sex therapist will often delve into the turning point of the lack of desire for sex in a marriage as a leverage point. The only alternative that a husband can use to put the lust back into his marriage without a sex therapist is to utilize the Luveuphoria System.

According to the article, Sex advice with Suzi Godson: Can I get the lust back in my marriage?, a large scale research project of later life divorce in the United States found that 24 percent of marriages failed due to couples either gradually drifting apart or falling out of love with each other. The solution offered to this travesty includes utilizing a sex therapist to create a radical shift in the way that each person views each other. The real solution does not involve sight, it involves non-sexual contact.

Why is non-sexual contact important in a marriage? 

In developing a positive relationship with your spouse, there needs to be more positive interactions than negative interactions in a marriage. It is best to exhibit those positive interactions through non-sexual contact which does not require a sex therapist.

An non-sexual touch such as a friendly slap on the back, a sensual caress, or a loving kiss has a powerful impact on the emotions. In fact, our skin contains receptors that directly elicit emotional responses, through stimulation of erogenous zones or nerve endings. The emotional impact of non-sexual contact is ingrained in our bodies.

Tactile corpuscles (or Meissner’s corpuscles) are responsible for the light touches associated with non-sexual contact. They are located on various areas of the skin, but concentrated in areas especially sensitive to light touch, such as the fingers and lips. They are specifically located in the glabrous skin just beneath the epidermis within the dermal papillae.

Another factor that contributes to the benefits of non-sexual contact is oxytocin. Non-sexual contact can induce oxytocin release among humans. Oxytocin is a hormone that reduces stress related responses and is an important ingredient for any successful marriage. Oxytocin is produced mainly in the hypothalamus, where it is either released into the blood via the pituitary gland, or to other parts of the brain and spinal cord, where it binds to oxytocin receptors to influence behavior and physiology.

The oxytocin receptor, also known as OXTR, is a protein which functions as receptor for the hormone and neurotransmitter oxytocin. In humans, the oxytocin receptor is encoded by the OXTR gene which has been localized to human chromosome 3p25. Oxytocin receptors are present in the central nervous system. These receptors modulate a variety of behaviors, including stress and anxiety, social memory and recognition, sexual and aggressive behaviors, bonding (affiliation) and maternal behavior.

Couples who engaged in non-sexual contact such as touching each other’s neck, shoulders, and hands, had more oxytocin in their saliva than couples who did not engage in this type of non-sexual contact. Women who reported frequent hugs from their husband displayed higher levels of oxytocin in their blood than women who report few hugs. Oxytocin reduces the challenges that people experience from everyday stressors, such as family turmoil or conflict at work.

Non-sexual contact from a spouse can reduce stress. Married women who are holding their husband’s hand have smaller threat-related neural responses than when they are holding the hand of a stranger or do not engage in handholding.

Husbands who desire to infuse the lust back into their marriage with out the use of a sex therapist must utilize the Luveuphoria System which includes the Luveuphoria formula.

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In Christ,

 

Dr. Derrick and Mrs. Sheila Campbell

PO Box 4707

Cherry Hill, NJ 08012

(856) 566-3267

www.advancedmarriagetraining.com

 

Published books – Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land -Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land (Workbook for husbands & Wives) – Advanced Marriage Training for Singles

All Three          Advanced

 

“I was blessed by the love and sensitivity that you and your wife showed during the presentation”.

 

Bishop Joseph P. Ravenell

Samaritan Baptist Church

Trenton, NJ “I would highly recommend you to any church or organization desiring to provide their people with timely marital wisdom and practical application skills”.

 

Dr. James E. Woods, II

El Shaddia Christian Assembly

Philadelphia, PA

Derrick and Sheila

Why the secret to a happy marriage is not finances?

In a recent article, author Hal Bundrick implies that the secret to a happy marriage is finances. He actually focuses his attention of the credit history of each person as a guide for marital bliss. It is not finances or past credit history that makes a happy marriage, it is each persons commitment to God that will ensure a happy marriage.

According to the article, “Some studies suggest that financial stress is the top cause of marriages collapsing,” says Bruce Provda, a New York-based divorce and family law attorney for some 40 years. “When credit scores are more or less similar and neither party enters the marriage with a burdensome debt load, the couple is more free to focus on building the relationship.” Provda is right, at least according to a survey released earlier this month by SunTrust bank. Of those surveyed who admitted stress in their relationship, finances were the #1 cause, noted by 35% of respondents overall. And it’s not an issue that necessarily gets easier with time. Of those aged 45 to 54, money issues were ranked the top cause of marital stress by 44% of those surveyed. And Provda claims the catalyst can be a matter as mundane as a FICO score.

What makes people have a happy marriage is commitment. A commitment is a willingness to give your time and energy to something that you believe in, or a promise or firm decision to do something.

There is no guarantee in marriage, however a marriage will last if the man and woman stay committed to each other. As simple as it sounds, this is one of most basic, foundational principles of marriages that last. They are committed to stay with each other. So they commit to work out their problems. They commit to seek the best for the other. They commit to grow in love. They commit to the principles that will strengthen your marriage. They commit to keep Jesus Christ at the center of your marriage too.

The process for a happy marriage begins with that man and woman committing to Jesus Christ.

If we use God’s original design for marriage, we can ascertain what both the man and woman need to be committed to that model to ensure a happy marriage.

God placed Adam in the Garden of Eden “… to dress it and to keep it” (Genesis 2:15). Dressing and keeping the Garden of Eden was Adams original purpose. The word ‘dress’ in the Hebrew is ‘abad, which means to work as a servant. The word ‘keep’ in the Hebrew is shamar, which means to protect. God placed Adam in the Garden of Eden to work as a servant in the garden and to protect the garden. Protecting the garden required that Adam become the steward of the Garden of Eden.

God granted Adam stewardship over the Garden of Eden. Stewardship requires a relationship between the master and the one that the master entrusts with the resources. In this case, God is the master and He entrusted the Garden of Eden to Adam.

God provided Adam with the path that he was to follow (Genesis 2:16 – 17). God instructed Adam on what he could and could not do. At that point and time, Adam maintained his relationship with God by obeying his commands.

God decided to provide Adam with a helper. Genesis 2:18 records …”The Lord God said , It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet”. That word ‘meet’ in the Hebrew is ‘ezer. Ezer means to help. Eve’s primary responsibility was to help Adam who was to work as a servant and to protect the Garden of Eden. The original purpose for the union between Adam and Eve was to work together as a team to serve and protect the Garden of Eden. Hence, the original purpose for the marriage between a man and a woman is to serve and protect the resources that God gives to the husband and wife through teamwork.

The only way that people can expect to have a happy marriage is to maintain a commitment to God’s original design for marriage.

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Dr. Derrick and Mrs. Sheila Campbell

PO Box 1668 Blackwood, NJ 08012

(856) 566-3267

www.advancedmarriagetraining.com

 

Published books – Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land -Leading Your Marriage into the Promised Land (Workbook for husbands & Wives) – Advanced Marriage Training for Singles

All Three     Advanced

“I was blessed by the love and sensitivity that you and your wife showed during the presentation”.

Bishop Joseph P. Ravenell

Samaritan Baptist Church

Trenton, NJ “I would highly recommend you to any church or organization desiring to provide their people with timely marital wisdom and practical application skills”.

 

Dr. James E. Woods, II

El Shaddia Christian Assembly

Philadelphia, PA

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